If we realize that what’s easy for us may be difficult for others, and if, more profoundly, we start to understand just how many different kinds of skills a human possesses… well, there’s a great deal we have to learn about ourselves and one another, before we can free ourselves of unhelpful emotions.
Emotion is only useful when it is pro-social. Otherwise, accept it for what it is… the grunts and whines of our inner beasts that can no more navigate a technological world than a dog can fly a plane.
But what of that very notion that we even can override our emotions? Not everyone can, for whatever reason. And of course, it’s not as simple as can or can’t, either.
If I know why you hate me, it doesn’t bother me as much.